Why do we romanticise FIRST love so much ? Why don’t we ever listen to stories about “my second love”? How are people not giving credit to themselves for taking a leap of faith all over again ?
How are people not embracing themselves, even after they know what they had gone through, what they are about to go through, the kind of pain within their heart. The constant struggle between their past and the painful flashbacks that keep playing in their second story. It is not easy to climb the stairs of love the second time when you have watched it collapse before. You know how bad it hurts when you fall and hit the ground, yet no one ever praises the second love. It’s not easy to trust again when your trust has been set on fire before. It’s not easy to believe and stay confident in love when it has been shattered before. It takes everything in you to dive into love again when you have been abandoned in an ocean of your own tears. Yet we never remember our second love. It’s always the first one that leaves the scar and always the last one which gets the healed version of you, not completely but statistically a far fetched better version of what you were. Yet why don’t we ever feel so much for the second love.
Now many of us would say, “ it was not a meaningful one”, well to those of them, I am talking purely about the one which was meaningful. Few of the stories that I have heard, about second love was a very painful story but yet a very promising one, where both of them ended up being each other’s perfect match. While the majority kept multiplying after their first story. But what I mainly want to focus about is why are people not giving credit to number 2. Don’t you feel that it has given you more clarity about what you truly want, why things didn’t work out before, don’t you feel It taught you about various attributes of life such as self-love, respect, compassion, trust, compatibility etc. don’t you think you should give yourself a pat on the back for surviving through the first blow. Why don’t we ever talk about that story when we understood the difference between intuition and self-realisation. Trust me our no.2 is a very important story in our lives, it shows us how far we have walked through the damage and how hard will another blow effect us.
Heart breaks are painful but what’s more dreadful is to live in it and constantly revolve around it. Hence when the first blow hits, it’s miserable but that version of you is very vulnerable and not everybody gets lucky to see that version. That’s when and why our second love story should be a memorable one and it’s alright if it doesn’t work, god has other plans for you, but don’t ever forget that journey you took with that person who saw you in the most vulnerable state, the most damaged version, the version you would never wish to be ever again.
So don’t underestimate the power of your second love story, that’s the one which talks about your evolution as a human, from damaged to the healed version. So a round of applause to all those, who played number 2 in someone’s story, because you all made them believe in love all over again, that love exists, even when they thought it never could again.